Super-Impose™ Styles™

Learn these narratives.

Ten STYLES™ that a MANIPULATOR may employ to manipulate you.

The person is out to get you.

Remember: Superior judgment trumps superior skills. See you here.

Know what game they are playing today.

1. The Constant Victim 2. One-Upmanship 3. Powerful Dependent 4. Triangulator

5. Blaster 6. Projector 7. Deliberate Misinterpreter 8. Flirt

9. Iron Fist 10. Combo



1. The Constant Victim

An impotent simpleton

☈ They find a way to end up as the victim.

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2. One-Upmanship

Nerd

☈ Uses put downs, snide remarks and criticisms to show superiority.

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3. Powerful Dependent

La La Lander

☈ Hides behind the mask of being weak and powerless.

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4. Triangulator

Evil to the core

☈ Tries to get others on side.

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5. Blaster

Temper, temper

☈ Blasts anger and blows up suddenly.

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6. Projector

My way always

☈ See themselves as perfect and its others that have the flaws and they take no ownership because they are never wrong.

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7. Deliberate Misinterpreter

Cunning

☈ Seems like a nice person – but twists and use your words. Spreads misinformation and misinterprets you and deliberately presents you in a false or negative way.

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8. Flirt

The Big Dick

☈ To get their way in life. They want to be admired and to have an audience but others' feelings are of no concern.

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9. Iron Fist

Bully

☈ Uses intimidation and throws weight around, uses you for their ends and to get their way.

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10. Combo

Combo!

☈ Switching from one to the other of the above 9.

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You have the method
that works

If you are unsure of which person is in front of you:

Do this:

Assume the other person is in a conflict situation.

• Recognise their discomfort with conflict or loss of approval.
• State issue with facts, without criticism of them as a person; ask who questions if required.
• Limit their attempts to minimise problem or side-track the discussion; get back on the subject.
• Wrap up the discussion with a clear statement of what is going to happen, not tell them what to do and when. Affirm your relationship with them.